One of my best friends called me tonight, kinda out of the blue (since it was late - he usually doesn't call me past 8pm) to tell me he's now engaged. And I didn't even know he was looking to shop for a ring.
They haven't been dating for long, and she's done very little to endear herself to any of his friends, and I've seen considerably less of him now than before they met (even when he was in other relationships). Which makes it a lot harder to be genuinely happy for him. I mean, he's one of my best friends. He's like a brother to me in many ways. But I pretty much had to lie through my teeth when telling him "that's awesome!" when I'm really thinking "what the hell are you doing?!" And I'm not the only one in our group who's worried that he's getting married because everyone else around him is.
I hope he proves me wrong. I really do. But I have serious doubts.
Posted by anonymous at November 13, 2003 7:53 PM | TrackBackIf he truely is a best friend you need to be happy for him anyhow. Please don't voice your concern to him either. It might damage your relationship with him. Every relationship is different and perhaps he's really really into this girl and that's why you haven't seen him as much.
I'll tell you this much, friendships are odd when it comes to the girl in dating your friend. It's jealousy.
If your friend is happy be happy for him. That's what a good friend would do.
Posted by: Well at November 13, 2003 11:44 PMi disagree with well. i don't think you can sit there and keep your mouth shut if you're that worried that the girl is going to pull him furthur and furthur away from you and the rest of your friends.
Posted by: stub at November 14, 2003 6:39 AMA real friend wouldn't be jealous of his best friends happiness. If the friend is moving away from you perhaps your friendship isn't what you thought it was.
Posted by: A Real Friend at November 17, 2003 5:07 PM