Thanks for your kind offer. It is difficult for me to make new friends at this point in my life. I have been through some tough times in the last several years which have made me become withdrawn and leery of other humans. The KodyBear and I have known each other for about 14 years. We know much about each others troubles. Part of my every day life was spent wondering what would happen to Mr. Bear, trying to help him see that there is another way to live. I often wondered if I would be attending his funeral. Now he is as safe as he could be. And you are right that this is where he wanted to be. He made the choice. As when any long time friend goes away there is an empty space that bothers you. Although I feel a weight lifted off of my shoulders, I am still saddened. I only wish the best for my good friend.
Posted by anonymous at September 2, 2005 5:40 AMI am saddened, too. He is one terrific guy, and my husband and I love him to death. What a waste of potential! I really hope that he gets the help he needs, or at least I hope that he will accept the help he needs, while a guest of the Department of Corrections. I recently met his mother, and it felt like coming home. She and I really bonded, like sisters, and I hope I was able to help her see that he is in a good place (relatively) for someone who is too stubborn and/or depressed to seek help on his own. I begged him to, but he seems bent on self-destruction. Let's make sure neither one of us deserts him. We need to give him our support. I'm glad he has you on his side as well. he needs all the help we can give him.
Posted by: at September 2, 2005 3:39 PMIf you have my phone # you all give me a call and we can exchange emails. That might be a better place to chat. I will never desert my friend. We are important to his well being and I too am glad that you and Jeff have been there for him. I just wish he would let go of Rhonda and become himself. He will fail at that relationship until he can live with himself. She is such a hard ass. Beauty is only skin deep.
Posted by: at September 3, 2005 7:17 AMYep, Jeff and I refer to her as a bar bitch. While she certainly is attractive "for her age", we find her to be crass, loud and obnoxious. We just don't see what the appeal is. I'm pretty sure she sleeps around, including with Frank, and he's got to know that. Someone who tries as hard as she does to advertise her wares is certainly not celibate.
Anyhoo, I need to write to Mr. Bear, and I'll see if he can tell us how to get in touch with you, as this most certainly is not the venue to exchange personal information. There are too many freaks here (like you and me) to do that. I'm glad he has you as well as us.
Posted by: at September 3, 2005 8:31 AM