im in love with my girlfriend, im in love with the other girl. or maybe im in love with an idea, or im clutching a love straws, grasping at the idea that this is love. im craving human affection and i dont want it misjudged as anything but pure desire for physical contact. i havent lived with my girlfriend for 3months and i see this other girl daily, for the last 3 months. they're nothing alike, except for both sharing my affection. nobody knows, nobody. im worried that i won't ever be able to express it with as much clarity as it deserves because nobody will understand maybe because even i dont have a fully understanding of it. maybe with time it will pass. i never knew what self doubt was. now its all i know.
Posted by anonymous at December 4, 2005 6:49 PMTo find out who you love more, ask yourself this question:
"Would I mind being financially destroyed by this person?"
Posted by: at December 5, 2005 12:06 AMHere we go again with the "she doesn't know how I feel" stuff.
Your post says that you haven't lived with your girlfriend for 3 months. If you did live together, and now you don't, it pretty much means that she's not your girlfriend any more. That leaves you free to pursue a relationship with the other girl. You'll never know if she has interest in you if you don't ask. If you do ask, and she turns you down, it doesn't mean that you should let that feed your self doubt. It just means that she isn't for you.
Just relax; go out, have fun, have recreational sex without confusing it with love until your real soulmate comes along. She'll be worth waiting for, I promise.
Posted by: at December 5, 2005 6:41 AM