I have always tried to be open minded about things, but I have never been able to understand how men can accept a baby and a relationship when they are having a baby that is not theirs (i.e., his with her egg).
I understand the feeling of simplying fathering a child that is not my own--out of charity, compassion, love of human beings. Every child should be loved, don't misunderstand me.
I just don't get it that a man can truly love a child that is not his own unless maybe he was there from the get go--he was a part of the decision that he and his girlfriend were gonna do this together. Obviously I'm a man. I want to know how women and men think about this. I've just always wanted to know about this.
Thank you for this opportunity to ask this question.
Posted by anonymous at December 15, 2005 11:38 PMwhy can women accept an adopted baby? why can men accept this?
think it's easy: there's a human being searchin for love, needs help and can't live without the caring of others.
some people call this charity. some people call this love.
Let go of your useless sentimentality. It's the inner cave man who cares who the biological father was, that no longer matters in modern society. Perhaps your feelings about the child are actually reflections of unresolved issues about him or her?
Posted by: at December 16, 2005 10:52 AMMaybe the man cannot father his own child, hence having decided with his girlfriend/wife to adopt or use another man's goods.
If you're talking about a woman cheating on her man and having another man's baby then there are issues that need resolving within the relationship. THAT would definitely make it more difficult for the man to accept a child that is not his. Even then, there are many men who are beyond their egos and raise that child as his own.
It's called love. If you really love a person, you accept them and all their baggage.
Posted by: at December 17, 2005 8:04 AMIf you feed them long enough, they start to look like you.
Posted by: at December 24, 2005 10:57 AM