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It's not very hard to act out with the blanket of voidness in which we called the 'internet.'

Sorry for being naive, but what is "Friends with Benefits"???

Friends with benefits is making out and or sex without obligation or commitment to that person, like a make out/sex buddy. The term "friends" is used loosely.

Basically it's sex without dating, without the courtship and without the commitment to be exclusive to each other. It's financially and emotionally cheap, I think.

I agree. It's a demeaning thing.

HEY! There isn't one thing wrong with having a 'Fuck Buddy' That's what I like to call them :)

Fuck buddies are the best.

haha! fuckin' fuckheads! you two are kidding right?

do you have anything to support your claim?

I didn't think so, otherwise you would've included it in your statement.

People cannot emotionally detach themselves from sexual intercourse. It's just not possible. It's just what humans do, we want closeness.

I suppose fucking to satisfy physical urges are just that.... physical urges. Very basic and animalistic. I thought that we've all evolved to something more than that but I guess the last two comments above are little slow in their progress. haha! fuckin' idiots!

The person that posted this as well as the person who left the coment before mine....need to get laid.

Dude, you've just proven that other person's point!

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Though I find the above terms demeaning...I often engage in sexual acts with "friends". I am currently not in a relationship, nor do I wish to be, but I still enjoy indulging in the pleasures of sex. I don't see any problem in doing this with people whom I have mutual caring and respect for...but no commitment. Mutual caring and respect...that's more than you can say for some relationships.

True enough. Some so-called "relationships" do lack caring and respect that is essential to a healthy and loving union. I'm certain this is not what they are referring to by the above comments.

The term "fuck buddy" really really is demeaning but if you find beauty in what you have with your "friends", can it really be left at that? I wonder...

I assure you that you are shortchanging yourself by having no commitment to your sex partner. Being in a healthy, loving and happy relationship is one of the most wonderful thing a human being can experience.

For some, this road to a healthy, loving and happy relationship is a long one because they need to work on themselves to be ready for that.

This is just my perspective, I'm not an expert on this, I suppose the term "different strokes for different folks" applies here :)

Thanks for everyone's comments!

Geez I dislike what sex is turning into.
Gonna avoid it.

Being in a "healthy, loving and happy relationship" certainly is "one of the most wonderful things a human being can experience," but until that comes along, a little sex between friends works pretty well. So does recreational sex with...just about anyone.

Really friends with benefits can help someone with an emotional or physical void fill it until they find what they are looking for. Unfortuantly it is very easy to get wrapped up in what you are doing, that it is very easy to get attached to the other.

That statement really does not make sense. Someone who is emotionally void is not going to feel less emotionally void by doing something physical like sex. ...and what does physical voidness mean, anyway? Is that what they call being "horny" these days? physically void??? What a bunch of bullshit!

If anything, someone who is emotionally void will feel more void by just having "sex" because sex should have an emotional connection with your partner. If it's just physical, how does that fill one's emotions? .....this is how some people as you say....."get wrapped up in what you are doing, that it is very easy to get attached to the other." Duh! 'cause we all want an emotional connection.

What psycho "doctor's" article did you read from anyway, mister or miss?

Really.....it's all rationalizations you make to feel less guilty about your actions. Be honest about it, call it what it is and not dress it with some psycho babble bullshit.

What I find truly amazing is the heat that comes out of these statements. "Psycho babble bullshit". Actually, that one rubbed me the wrong way. Not because what this fellow or miss was referring to, but because the way he described it made psychotherapy or psychological training sound worthless. The term, "going to see the shrink" is mildly demeaning, but accepted. But to have it reduced to "psycho babble bullshit"? That seems just too much. My little rant, back to the topic at hand. There are those that feel before they can grow to understand someone, they have to have a close physical connection to them. Which typically results in a night or two sharing a bed, either with clothes on or with clothes off. If a person needs the emotional connection, then they have that person there already possibly willing to join in a deeper relationship. If not, then the feeling of rejection is less because there was less emotional impact supposedly invested in the relationship. Then there are those that believe a man and a woman should wait until marriage to have a strong emotional and physical bond with each other. This latter view is mine, but I will not point the finger at the former view and declare it anything. Each person has to make their own decisions on how they feel to best approach the situation of sexual intimacy.

Sorry, typo. "but because the way he or she described it".

I apologize for offending. To the contrary, I feel that psychotherapy/psychology and all it has to offer is very valid and helpful. I find it a useful tool in delving into the human mind and behavior to better understand ourselves. I just get irked when people try to rationalize or hide behind it.

I suppose that what you've described is a study that I do not believe in or have not been exposed to, hence my strong offensive language. But just because I do not believe in it/exposed to it does not mean that it isn't true. However, a great majority of those who need physical intimacy before developing an emotional connection, I believe is a small percentage. Why?.....

From my exposure to people, I've come to the conclusion that those who are just into the sex...are just into the sex and not into anything more (from their behavior and character).....so I find it difficult to believe what you are claiming. However, my experience of people is not an absolute conclusion for I have not met every person on earth nor have I done a study.

All that I'm saying is....don't hide behind something as great/beneficial as psychology to mask one's shame. If it is true, then it is true and who gives a f*ck what I say.

Also, referring to the comments above....don't sound like they're looking for anything more than sex...hence my strong offensive language...again.

Never had a friend with benefits. It just didn't exist when I was on the dating scene. (quite awhile ago) I'm married now and just don't think I could cheat on my spouse. Call me old fashioned, but I think people do get attached to people when they have sex with them. (unless they are some kind of social miscreant) So just "doing it" with someone else and "it doesn't count" seems crass at best and probably delusional.

I've been in one of these relationships for two and 1/2 months now. Guess what? We've been dancing around one another for the last two weeks; first him, then me, back and forth. I first noticed we had become very sensitive to what the other says. This wasn't so at first. We laughed and bantered about EVERYTHING. Now it's like we have to watch what we say to one another. We're actually not speaking at the moment. Why? Although I know it's not true, he told me he had 'other friends'. I got mad and signed off. I went over to his house later that night and the punk wouldn't answer the door! The last two weeks he constantly contacts me telling me he misses me. One night he 'jokingly' asked me to marry him. Seven times? I fear I'm the one getting attached here, and I guess it's probably better if we don't see one another anymore. Now that I've had this experience, I don't think I'll try this again!

If the person is not a friend to start with, he's merely looking for benefits.

The FWB idea is that you are already friends, not in a relationship, not looking for a relationship with that person, but like a bit more than hugs. It's not something you can ask a stranger to do.

lets face it. there are differences in people. age and maturity has a lot to do with whether or not a person can handle this type of relationship. sex drive is biological and is especially strong in men (most men). just the way it is.
how many young people have gotten married just to legitimize sex? a lot.
fwb is ok and somewhat smart

I've been in a friends with benefits relationship for 2 years (not frequently). We are friends and we talk more than fuck. But it nice having that option because we are attracted to each other. Keep in mind this type of relationship is different for men and women. Men want sex. Women may start off wanting sex but often get their emotions mixed in. This creates problems. Both people have to agree that it is and will only ever be about sex. I know some people won't understand why I may want that, but that's ok. Once you're in a committed relationship, the comfort level sets in and that first kiss feeling fades. Having a friend with benefits gets that feeling back. At least for me because we don't do it that often and it's exciting each time. To each his/her own.

Hey there is nothing wrong to indulge in the pleasure of having sex with no strings attacheed, so long it is well understood and thats what "Friends with Benefits is all about. Girls go ahead and email me at jafri@post.com but remember NSA....NSA (no strings attached. OK!

friends with benefits suck

hey i broke up with my girl and now and she wants to be best friends with benefits. wut shud i do?

I have a best friend, my cycling partner. We practice cycling everyday since we train for competitions. He has a girlfriend and he and I have only been great friends. We joke together, we help eachother out with personal stuff (like dating advice, well he gives me dating advice), we sometimes go shopping together, etc...One night his girlfriend with whom he lives with left the country on a business trip. He had been invited to a very fancy business party and he had to take someone along, so he invited me, since I'm his good friend, right?
So we danced, had a few drinks, laughed and had a wonderful time. But of course, it was not a date. When he had to drop me off I asked him if he could accompany me up to my apartment since I had something to give him. Well, I don't know what happend (maybe it was the drinks) but we ended up having incredible sex in my apartment. Afterwards I felt like a slut because I know his girlfriend and she is very nice.
We promised eachother that this would not happen again, but it did. We keep telling eachother that we are friends and that sometimes friends may have sex (friends with benefits), but you know what? I don't want to lie to myself anymore, we are lovers (even though that sounds so XIX century) and I guess that that is what friends with benefits really are: a person that you are attracted to, have sex occasionally and repeatedly. That sounds like a lover to me.

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