Anonyblog

I have the EXACT same concerns with the way my life is going. Exhausting but rewarding career or loving family and husband? I'm not sure it's something we'll ever figure out.

I'd say opt for the career path. Then, if marriage is right for you, it'll find you. If you don't reach for your dreams, you'll always wonder what might have been

I agree. You don't mention your age; if you're still young, you have time to explore your more exciting dreams before you settle down. It sounds to me that marriage and family at this point in your life is not the path to take. You will always wonder what could have been, and you'll be restless. Your fiance deserves a woman who can totally commit herself to a shared dream. Good luck.

And what does career get you....wealth, success, the luxury of a good lifestyle. And who will you enjoy all this with? Hotel rooms, red eye flights, living out of a suitcase....what happened to all of us? what happened to the good 'ol days when all that mattered about life was the person you were with...right, that makes me old-fashioned I guess. Yes, take the advise of everyone on here.....enjoy your career...'cos that's what living is REALLY about.

Love is the most important thing, you will always have it with you. Someday you may retire,and you will be all by yourself in your big beautiful, empty home. Think about marriage, it can be more rewarding than anything...

Career now; marriage and family later. You can have it all.

I can't believe how disingenuous people are in their relationships. Why aren't you talking about this with your partner? If you can't have an open relationship where your goals and dreams are evaluated and validated, you don't really have a relationship in the true sense. Just be honest with him, and be clear what's important to you - if this is not the person to share your goals, it will be painful, but maybe you have to take the next step of your journey alone.

I am certainly not being disingenuous in my relationship. He knows all too well the conflict I'm feeling right now, and he knows that it is killing me being out of work. Unfortunately, every time we talk about it - he simply states that I should do what I would like to do. The problem is that I am unsure of what that is exactly. He truly loves me (and I him) and just wants me happy.

By the way, he has known all along exactly how ambitious I am. He met me just as I was getting going on my college career.

I just have to decide what is best for me. Everything would be going well if I could just find some type of job at least remotely related to my career thus far HERE (I have a couple of years experience in the supply chain area).

He just got a great new job after looking for close to two years. He gave up everything to follow me to Texas (that's where I landed my first job after college). I know if I moved, he'd follow (and I would follow him if he moved), but I could never do that too him again. I love him too much.

So, I guess for now, I am just going to plug away looking for a job in this area...

No one can "have it all." But the trick is finding satisfaction and making peace with what you need, what you have now, and who might share it with you. Yes, perhaps "both-and" is possible, but with limits. Not sure every choice has to grind down to "either-or."