your married with 2 children and found out today after a routine physical that you have a rare terminal illness that will kill you within 3 to 6 months. Before you tell your wife you get a scond, third and even fourth opionion and all are retruned with the same gut wrenching horrendous prognosis; your future is limited to 6 months. You decide to tell your wife and just as you are about to breakdown; she informs you that she also has some news, she is pregnant. So I ask all of you who happen along as well as you faithfull readers, what if.....?
Posted by anonymous at February 3, 2006 8:16 PMyou tell her, knowing that your own personal strength has been given in part from her own dedication to your love for each other. she is strong...and you both walk through that door, cross over that bridge, together.
Posted by: anon at February 3, 2006 10:48 PMYou tell her, remembering that she will always have a part of you with her in your children. I know you want us all to say, "Have a fling, man! Live it up and screw everything in sight while you still can." Sorry, fella, that's the worst thing a person could do. You would leave your wife devastated not only by your death, but by your betrayal, not to mention how the added stress would affect your children. The thing to do would be to make every remaining moment with your family into a cherished memory.
Posted by: at February 4, 2006 6:35 AMThe worst thing to do is to keep quiet about it. The hardest hits are the ones that come as a surprise. By not telling, you get to save yourself from the pain of her reaction, but at the same time, don't forget the pain she'll be feeling if you 'suddenly' died in 6 months, with no mental preparation on her part. You have a gift of 6 months - make good use of it.
Posted by: at February 5, 2006 11:13 AMSeriously, when one is about to die, they are not thinking about a fling, ok. They are thinking about the things that matter most like missing their children grow up to be successful, productive human beings with good morals and have children of their own.
When you leave this earth, do you want your lasting memory to be that you had an affair? Agreeing with the above comment, your betrayal to your wife and children would mark you an asshole to everyone who knows you and your family.
This post is worse than your original one! Just what exactly is your point? Are you trying to see if there is a situation that would make an affair ok? The only situation I can think of that would make this ok is if it was ok with your wife. If you BOTH have an open relationship in which case there will be no secret smiles nor shared taboo stash of memoirs.
I highly dislike this type of relationship but there are studies done that say there are some people who are born to be monogamous and others poly. I think they're just riding on the born to be gay train. Though, I agree that some are born gay, I don't know if that holds true with poly. I think that's just an excuse to have multiple partners and have that be ok with society.
If we've once again missed your point, then why not say it straightforward and not hide behind ineffective rhetorics.
Posted by: Game Not Over at February 5, 2006 11:34 AMWhere do you people come from? Give me break! There is nothing in this post about sex, having a fling, marrital affairs, NOTHING! Yet, everyone comes off with this "Don't have a fling" attitude or "betrayal of your wife" crap. Why does it always boil down to sex? And yes, you certainly did "miss it" again.
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 7:17 AMI would suggest that you tell her. That way you and your family can make the most of the time you have left together.
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 8:38 AMWhat kind of bizarro world do you people live in that there is any question that you would tell your wife/spouse/whatever? OF COURSE YOU WOULD TELL THEM.
What else would you do?
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 8:46 AM"Why does it all boil down to sex?" Perhaps you should re-read the first "what if" post, which most certainly and blatantly boiled down to sex---"one night of searing passion" and "we would share a secret smile as we tap our shared taboo stash of memoirs." It is reasonable for commenters to believe that the second "what if" post is cut from the same cloth. I don't think we "missed" a thing.
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 10:09 AMGive you a break??????????? hahahaha.....I think the poster has lost it! This is his ego talking now trying to get even with all of us who've made a fool out of him. Who cares, man?
This is an anonymous blog site. No one really knows your identity. So, you're not as smart as you think you are. Admit it, learn from it and move on!
Yes, I am egging you on. Will your ego take the blow or will you blow some more?
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 10:54 AMThe title of your post "(One More Time) What if........." and "And yes, you certainly did "miss it" again." implies that you were referring to your first post which certainly did have implications of a fling.
Posted by: at February 6, 2006 11:01 AMu kill anyone that knows and up ur life insurance policie to as much as u can afford... or just tell her and waste away
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