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I used to clean toilets at a wig store, and now I've got a desk job supervising a printing press. My mother still works at a laundromat and I help her wipe the floor and close up when I visit her. My point? There's nothing shameful about an honest day's work, be it blue collar or white collar. Take the second job. Your family depends on you.

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I work at a Domino's as my second Job. Most of my co-workers are also there as a second job. Some of them have very nice jobs. One is a regional manager for Snapple, another owns a landscaping business. Another is a university professor. Several of them Drive thier BMW's home, get in their beat up 96 escorts (or other comparable heaps) and drive to Dominos.
Listen, you got to do what you got to. I don't know your workplace, and would never presume I know whats best for you or your family. However, in my case, the ribbing from co-workers was far outweighed by giving my family the lifestyle they deserve.

First: congratulations! You must be very proud!

I presume that you've also gone over all your expenses and trimmed what you could. I have a wife and two kids, and my wife works 14h/wk at minimum wage, mostly to get out of the house, but if she didn't have the job, we wouldn't miss the cash. Point is: you can live on one income (I've done it for almost 5 years) if you pay attention to your expenses and cut out what you don't *really* need.

I'm kind of against the idea of you getting a job, not b/c of your cow-orkers' feelings for you, but because you'd be sacrificing time that you should be spending with your family. If you get a second job but lose the family in the process, it's hard to say that you were further ahead than if you tightened your belt and ensured that you're on rock solid ground with your family.

As a father of two children, I can promise you that you will NOT know how hard it's going to be for the first 3 years of that kid's life. If you work, you're depriving your wife of the very simple gift of having a little bit of a break from the baby.

You will be *very* surprised at how easily you'll adjust to a lower standard of living after you've done it for a month or two. I know plenty of happy families who make far less than I do (and I'm probably middle-middle class) but seem to do ok. They might not have the HDTV setup, or all the tv channels (heck, I don't either), but they love one another and will stick through it thick and thin.

The choice is ultimately yours to make, but I hope you'll consider what I said carefully and really evaluate the risks here. A part time pizza job can't possibly make up for the loss of your wife's income, so you're going to have to trim fat anyway. So do it right and put your family first, and your material needs last. The taste of this bitter pill won't last long, I promise.

Sometimes two jobs are a necesity. There should never be any embarrasment in doing what one can to make ends meet. Delivering pizza isn't even close to embarrasing, nor is cleaning toilets for that matter. Humble yourself poster! You shine bright in the light!

If you honestly feel you need the second job, then by all means friend, take it with no regard for what the simple minds of the world conjure up.
Think it through thoroughly before hand, as you said, you just had a baby. Babes grow up fast; time with them cannot be replaced, as time without them can only be regreted.

I agree with the other poster insofar as you should weigh up the lost time with your family before striving to maintain some invisible material standard. It sounds like you're stuck in the trap of appearance as everything on more than one level, and ultimately you can never beat the race, so why bother starting? Take some pride in who you are and forget bothering about what others think.

Great responses from all of you. Thanks. I really appreciate your opinions. I think I will take the job if only for a short time.

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The worst thing a guy can do is waste time thinking what other people will say.
Just do what you want to do.

Fuck 'em. Tell your colleagues to kiss your behind too if they give you stick. If you don't rise to it, they can't get to you. Who cares? You have a beautiful fiance and child. You'll be a great example to your child and an irritant to those who rely on other sources of income that they don't work for. The satisfaction of being able to support you and yours is always good, no matter if you have to take a second job that some would view as 'beneath' you

I agree with all of you. I just wanted to see if I was thinking clearly. I start tonight.

I must say that my fiance and I are in a similar situation. I left my first job out of college (I was there almost exactly a year) due to all of the political wrangling in the oil industry (my boss was caught in the middle, unexperienced, and didn't understand exactly what was going on a day to day basis). The job was taking a toll on my health.

To make a long story short, 2,000 miles and 10 months later and I am still looking for a job. After close to 8 months with BOTH of us out of work, we've cut everything that we could possibly cut. Fortunately, he just got a great new job. Now we are focusing on tackling our huge debt (and I can't wait to contribute once I finally get a new job).

My advice, if you can swing it, don't take the extra job. There is absolutely no shame in it, it is just that you will have more time with your family. However, if you are deeply in debt, the second job might help you secure the future for your family - or at least until your wife goes back to work (if she so chooses).

Good luck!

No job should be considered "beneath" you. Somebody's got to do it; why not you? There is no shame whatsoever in making an honest living.

tell your wife to get a job

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