My boyfriend and I of 14months broke up a month ago. He said he was tired. Now we both seem to have sort of a love hate relationship.
When i contact him, he gets annoyed with me for being irritating. When i dont, he also gets annoyed with me for not bothering. I don't know exactly what's going through his mind. We were supposed to stay best friends, but isn't friendship a two way thing? I feel like i just keep on giving and all he's doing is taking it in. He treats me just like a punching bag. But i'm thinking this way only because i don't know what's on his mind, i wish i did. I know i'm stupid to continue clinging on, but there's hope. I don't know what he wants to do. Should i just let go, and risk the friendship and everything that we've built up slowly since 6 years ago or should i just keep on clinging on?
I need someone to understand, to understand how he's feeling. Because if he doesn't want me anymore, then i'll try and move on. But now he's giving me mixed signals. I'm so scared of losing him, but i'll have to let go eventually, right? It seemed so perfect, and now it's all gone down the drain.
Falling in love really hurts.
Posted by anonymous at February 23, 2006 5:28 AMWho broke up with whom? Knowing that will help with determining how he feels.
Sounds to me like he's ready to move on but he wants to keep you around just in case he can't find a replacement. He wants to know that you're there wanting him and waiting.
Posted by: at February 23, 2006 9:10 AMDon't be the on-call girlfriend, he is just using you until he can find someone else because he likes the security of it. I know it may be hard, but you have to let go and stop calling him all together. Don't get back with someone who doesn't appriciate how beautiful and smart you probably are :)
Posted by: at February 23, 2006 11:11 AMThats okay, I am an african american homosexual who has a mentally challenged half-brother. It could be worse than you have now.
Posted by: at February 23, 2006 11:18 AMYeah? Well, I'm black, gay, I live in a dumpster and I have both cancer and AIDS, plus I'm a woman and I'm constantly being held back in my career because of it.
I win.
Posted by: at February 23, 2006 12:46 PMI'm dead already, Ultimately I win.
Posted by: Anon at February 23, 2006 3:14 PM