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I'm in your corner.

I feel exactly like you... almost everyone says they are my friends... But they just won't care about me like real friends are supposed to... I'm also 16 and never had a girlfriend... They either refuse me very gently(3 out 10 so far) or ignore what I just told them (all the rest...)

If you're only 16, then you have nothing to worry about at this time. I never had a girlfriend until I was 24. I married her 7 years later and we've been married now almost 5 years.

If all you ever answer is "nothing...not much...etc.", it may be because you are trying not to do anything. I mean, it takes a really lazy person to sit around the house and do absolutely nothing day in and day out. If you're that lazy, then you better change yourself first before worrying about being lonely. Read a book. Take a walk with someone. Bake a cake and share it with someone. Go to a movie. Join a community center. That's the best way to meet people.

It could be you just don't know how to make what you did sound interesting. Did you read a book? Talk about it. What was it about? Give whoever asks you what you did a review of it. That's interesting stuff. Same thing with a movie. Maybe you had relatives over. Talk about how nice (or not) it was. Careful with the negative stuff at first. No one wants to listen to a whiner.

If you have a job, try getting to know some of your co-workers better. Be a good listener and ask questions. Offer to have them over for dinner or some other activity. Maybe someone is moving. Offer to help. Then make sure you do help.

It's just not that hard to meet people if you have a positive outlook on life. If you are bored, it is because you are boring. If you are genuinly interested in other people, then let them know by asking them questions like "Where are you from? Where did you grow up? What are your hobbies? Have you ever traveled?" etc.

Conversations should start out light and be on a more positive footing. Nobody wants to hear someone whine about how much their life sucks when they are just getting to know a person. It scares people away.

Anyway...good luck to you in your life. I hope you find a way to connect. Tear down those walls and learn to love yourself and what you do in your life. Then share that joy with people you meet.

I'm just passing through during an internet search, so I won't be back here again. But I just had to comment after hearing your comments.

Take care.

i know how you feel. but someday, somewhere, whether you're 16 or 60, you will find someone who likes you for you. have faith. there are times in life when you feel you don't have the motivation/goal to live for. well, wait for the day when you do find the goal. hope is a wonderful thing. :)

That's okay, I used to be just like that (well...I still am a little) But, you know what helped me? I started volunteering to teach children religion for one weeknight every week. I know it seems minor, but it really gave me motivation to live just so I can see them every week. I started reading books, and got lost in plots. I started to write, and watch movies that I've always wanted to watch. I really don't see people that are my peers outside of school, and the only people that I really see are my parents and little brother. Truthfully, I've gotten more out of reading and teaching than I would with a whole group of fake friends. Don't just sit around your house bored, get out there and volunteer, even if you think it's stupid you may never know your true calling until yoy try...

^*you

yeah i feel you.

i'm sorta in the same boat, with the only ppl i talk to on a semi-regular basis being my parents, but my company has started doing more social activities outside of work though, so that's been kinda nice... one co-worker had ppl over for drinks last week, and we're having our second happy hour this coming week.

i agree with a previous comment that you should get to know your co-workers (or maybe classmates if you're in school) better and maybe make some more friends that way.

I have the same kind of life ...
Once I was complaining the same way as you did in your comment, and guess what someone told me : ''take a book, it's a good friend'' Well, I sure was quite outraged hearing this but now, years have passed and I have to say I do read a lot more than I used to. It's a comforting thought to be able to say I might be quite alone throughout this life but well at least I'll have some knowledge and if you think about life and how stupid it can be, I guess learning is the best thing to do. Read books, they'll keep you company!! I do it all the time and am not even ashamed of it. ;)